I have made a lot of changes in the past few years. I am now making many decisions differently than my “mainstream” peers. As a result I am starting to hear quite a few differing opinions directed towards me, which I don’t usually mind as it facilitates discussion. What I find upsetting and to be honest, quite ignorant, are some of the outrageous things that are said to me. The other day I heard what, to the present date, has been the most ignorant.
“If you are birthing at home, you shouldn’t be allowed to call an ambulance.”
“You didn’t want care….”
The meaning behind this opinion was that, as an unassisted birthing woman, if you chose to not have a registered care provider at your birth, you should no longer have access to any qualified help should something go wrong at your birth. This person believes that if you choose to not have a qualified attendant at your birth and something goes wrong, you and/or your baby should die. Pretty callous when you really dig into the truth behind the words.
Now, there are some women/families that believe whatever happens while they are pregnant and/or birthing is meant to be. They don’t seek out any care, whatever happens. That is their choice and they have the right to make it.
What upsets me so much about statements like this from others? They have absolutely no right to make that choice for someone else. It is that kind of mentality that crushes basic human rights. It shows that they don’t have respect for other humans. Very sad.
I will always fight for human rights. For woman’s choice. For birthing mothers choices. For breastfeeding mothers choices. That does not mean that I believe other choices made are wrong. It just means they aren’t the right choice for me. I absolutely would not try to prevent that choice for someone else. It is not my place, not my choice, not my life to live.
I can still find a way to support others in choices that I wouldn’t make….can you?